It is recommended that you play with people you trust, and trust to be supportive, as many feelings will emerge during Remembrance time. We tend to repress many of our feelings about our departed, but this can lead to a general numbing. Remembrance was designed as a gateway to opening of our hearts and minds so we can truly live and love fully again, even with our loss.

Depending on whether or not your loss was traumatic, you will have a different experience. If your loss was traumatic, I suggest that you have down time planned for after Remembrance time, as well as potentially for the following day, so you can gently process through all that has been explored and shared.

You can play for as long or as short a time as you like, as often as you would like! Anywhere from one question to hours of conversation – it is entirely up to you. When you feel complete or like you have gained what you need from each Remembrance time, please let the other participants know you are “good”. There is no shame. Depending on where you are in your very personal grief cycle, you can trust your sense of completion each time you play.

The Gentle Rivers question category was designed with gentle questions, so that even children can be guided to speak on their loss with adult guidance and loving support. You can also guide children through the drawing prompts in the Soul Expressions category.

I created Remembrance because I personally have had a very difficult and lonely path to walk through my own dark night with loss. I just don’t think it has to be quite so lonely – so I created Remembrance as a resource for us to come together in Remembrance of our departed – to flesh out the infinite colors of their lives, and to acknowledge how they have added to the tapestry of our lives, in community and with camaraderie. My hope is that Remembrance helps you to fill the void with deeper bonds and connections to yourself, and to others.